Germanwings plane crash: ‘The pain is almost unbearable’: grieving Australian family visit the crash site
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Melbourne Germanwings plan crash victims Carol Friday and son Greig Friday. Photo: Supplied From left: Greig Friday, Carol Friday, Greig’s sister Alexandra and Carol’s husband Dave. Photo: Supplied
Greig and Carol Friday, with Dave and Alexandra. Photo: Supplied.
From left: Pippa Coram (Greig’s cousin), Greig Friday, Alie Friday (Greig’s sister) and Georgie Coram (cousin).
Grieivng:(From left) Pippa Coram, Mal Coram and Georgie Coram in Le Vernet. Photo: Nick Miller
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Mal Coram saw the mountain that took his sister and nephew. He had brought flowers. And he marked the occasion with a personal goodbye, whispered to the blue sky and snow-striped range beneath it, and the stone memorial at his feet.
“You just sort of look at it and say a few words,” he said on Monday. “Like ‘I love you. I love you forever’.”
“That’s all you can do, is say it over and over again. What else can you say?”
Mr Coram came with his daughters Pippa and Georgie and son-in-law Michael to France on behalf of their extended family to say farewell to Carol Friday, 68, and her son Greig, 29, the two Australians among the 150 who died when Germanwings flight 4U9525 came down in the Alps.
“I now know the true meaning of the words grief stricken,” Mr Coram said in a prepared statement read to the Australian media at Le Vernet, the closest village to the crash site.
A stone marker has been erected there for grieving families, in a field overshadowed by the stark peaks of the Alpine range hit by the diving plane.
There was some comfort to be found in the stunning scenery around them.
“I think the fact that it’s such a beautiful place… both Carol and Greig loved the outdoors,” Georgie said. “You know their final resting place is at least somewhere beautiful.”
The family’s grief was obvious in the way they held onto each other for support, embracing in shared comfort and pain.
“The pain is almost unbearable,” Georgie told Fairfax.
The family carried tributes from family and friends: poems, photos and other mementos of Australia to leave as a memorial in a foreign land. They will return to the memorial on Tuesday to read the poems and messages, and to leave paintings that Carol made of the Australian bush.
“I felt the need to come here,” Mr Coram said. “I have a need to see the crash site and pay my respects to my sister and nephew.”
“My family suffers this loss terribly. My brother-in-law and niece are both too devastated to travel here today.”
Dave, husband to Carol for 34 years, is being looked after by his siblings in Australia as he grieves. He helped compose the words that Mr Coram read out at Le Vernet.
Mr Coram also added words from Greig’s partner, who asked not to be named.
“Life has taught us a tough lesson. The lesson is, enjoy every bit of what we have for we don’t know when it is going to be taken away from us.”
Mr Coram said Carol and Greig’s death had “left a hole in our family that will probably never be filled”.
“She was the linchpin of the entire family,” he said. “My life-long travelling companion and my mate.”
“She was a unique and compassionate person, who always welcomed and accepted others, no matter their background.”
Carol’s son Greig inherited those same “beautiful values”, he said, always thinking of others.
Greig was his godson. His daughters considered him not just a cousin, but a best friend and “soul mate for their whole lives”.
Georgie and Pippa are devastated by the loss of their aunt, and cousin.
Ms Friday, a child and maternal health nurse with the City of Casey in Melbourne, and Mr Friday, a graduate acoustics engineer, were on their way to meet Pippa Coram in Germany, where she lives, when the plane came down.
They were on holidays together before Mr Friday started his two-year stint in Europe where he was going to teach English in France.
The family’s thoughts on the man who caused this grief, the flight’s co-pilot, are a mixture of fury and disbelief.
“My two brothers are back in Australia still in denial,” Mr Coram said. “We have decided to treat this as an accident at this stage and thus deny the perpetrator his wishes.”
Georgie explained: “I think the enormity of it right now, with that added emotion was too much for us at this stage. Maybe down the track we’ll be able to process the anger which comes up with thinking that someone did this on purpose and that it’s essentially murder.”
But Mr Coram said there was “no point being angry because it’s happened.
He spared a thought for the parents of the co-pilot. “You feel sorry for (them),” he said. “How would you feel if your child did that?”
He hopes to come back in September, when there is a road out to the crash site and he can get closer to it. Other family members will visit in coming months, he said.
While in the Alps, the family plans to talk to French prosecutors who are investigating the crash.
The family wanted to thank the people who helped them make the journey around the world: Australian Federal Police, the government, and the “sincere and supportive” captain and crews of the Lufthansa and Qantas flights they have been on in recent days.
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